Super User clayton86 Posted August 28, 2014 Super User Posted August 28, 2014 Well my daughters real father is back in the picture. For those of you who don't know I adopted my wife's youngest child when I took her back after she cheated and got pregnant. So that's the condensed version of the start up of the situation. Well a week ago my soon to be ex wife told me Carlos was back in town. He at first wanted to see Charlotte and has sense decided against it and only wants pics as to not ruin her life since she has a good thing going with me stepping up as her father. However the ex and her are going to get her a new car seat tomorrow so he will see her. I don't mind him seeing her and trying to be part of her life in fact I encourage it to an extent. At the same time though I would go to jail if I followed up on my other thoughts. I look at Charlotte as my own flesh and blood even though she is not. I want to rip Carlos's throat out to be honest for abandoning her and my wife for the last year and a half basically and now he's back like nothing happened. I guess he's been apologizing and sweet talking my wife which I do t care I wish she would take him back get her the heck out of my hair lol. I don't know what to think or do with the whole situation. Like I said I think he should be part of her life but at the same time he's been gone since my wife was 12 weeks and Charlottes now 8months old. Don't know what the purpose of this post is just venting I guess. Quote
Super User F14A-B Posted August 28, 2014 Super User Posted August 28, 2014 Men that step up outta Love, responsibility to raise another mans child... Often become discarded... I know I been there, and it still makes me madder than hell.... Hang tuff... Quote
Super User tomustang Posted August 28, 2014 Super User Posted August 28, 2014 Renounce citizenship and move to another country 2 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 28, 2014 Author Super User Posted August 28, 2014 Renounce citizenship and move to another country I would be lying if I said I didn't think of that. Honestly the only thing that has kept me moving forward is my kids but even that seems to be not working like it used to. Severe case of F it's going on lol. Quote
Super User Raul Posted August 29, 2014 Super User Posted August 29, 2014 Man you have the strangest relationship with that woman .... 1 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted August 29, 2014 Author Super User Posted August 29, 2014 Man you have the strangest relationship with that woman .... You ain't kidding I do everything I can to try to get her to leave me alone and hate me nothing works and she uses the kids as pawns knowing it will break me down and get her way. If I was her I would have shot me by now with the stuff I have said lol. Quote
scrutch Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 Do the right thing EVERY TIME. Kids have an uncanny way of picking that out when they're older and know better. Then you're the hero. Soldier on! 1 Quote
tipptruck1 Posted August 30, 2014 Posted August 30, 2014 Do the right thing EVERY TIME. Kids have an uncanny way of picking that out when they're older and know better. Then you're the hero. Soldier on! I agree with this. My mother used me and my two brothers as a pawns. Among other things. We all have various degrees of feelings for her. I use to have pure hatred for her. I gave that up some time in my mid 20s. Now we talk from time to time. But it is far from the typical mother son relationship. Of my two parents. My father was my hero and always will be. Quote
Djf3864 Posted September 5, 2014 Posted September 5, 2014 Props for stepping up like that and being a solid influence on the daughter. Quote
Super User bigbill Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Guys who do this are deadbeats. You stay calm and go with the flow. My son's live in girlfriend has a 16yo son from another boy friend where his dad wanted nothing to do with the kid. My son has a son with her too. Now the older son is accepted by my son as his own and everything is going great the kids dad wants in the picture. My son does everything with the boy. The orginal dad is asking the boy questions snooping on what's going on? They better hope I never meet this deadbeat dad. Just when things are going awesome for the older boy the orginal dad has to poke his nose in. Right now he stopped paying child support for the older boy too. I know how it feels my dad stopped paying child support for me. If we ever meet my size 11 is going you know where. Quote
Super User Raul Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Why are you guys calling these persons "Dad" ? the guy that raises you, feeds you, shelters you, takes care of you is your DAD, the other guy is your father. Dad and father are not the same thing. The title of this thread should be: Daughter´s biological FATHER is back or, What the hell that SOB wants ? 1 Quote
Super User Redlinerobert Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 My respect to you for taking her back after she cheated on you, got pregnant, and had another man's child. There is no way I would be able or willing to do that. So many other women on this earth. 1 Quote
Super User J Francho Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Give that little girl the dad she won't get any other way. Carlos and your ex will sink their own ships. And if they step up, all the better. Though they probably won't, and I wouldn't trust either of them as far as I could throw my car. 1 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Give that little girl the dad she won't get any other way. Carlos and your ex will sink their own ships. And if they step up, all the better. Though they probably won't, and I wouldn't trust either of them as far as I could throw my car. You don't have a car...lol They are talking about going back to the Puerto Rico now in November after picking season I told her go ahead the kids stay here. Quote
Super User Jigfishn10 Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 You don't have a car...lol They are talking about going back to the Puerto Rico now in November after picking season I told her go ahead the kids stay here. After picking season? Too lazy to help? Never mind, none of my business... Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted September 5, 2014 Author Super User Posted September 5, 2014 After picking season? Too lazy to help? Never mind, none of my business... He's a migrant worker Quote
Super User J Francho Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Aren't we all, lol. Quote
Super User A-Jay Posted September 5, 2014 Super User Posted September 5, 2014 Aren't we all, lol. No A-Jay 1 Quote
Super User deaknh03 Posted September 6, 2014 Super User Posted September 6, 2014 You don't have a car...lol They are talking about going back to the Puerto Rico now in November after picking season I told her go ahead the kids stay here. Take the kids and move to Portugal, or kill her and the new/old boyfriend. Just 2 clever ideas to help you. Feel free to pm me, I have a lot of great solutions. Quote
Helluva_Engineer Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 Honestly, I would just walk away. Life is too short for the drama. Let your lawyer get you the kids and let the deadbeat and the migrant worker go back to whatever ****-hole they want and live your life. You'll be better off for it. I know it sounds harsh, but you owe nothing to their kid, so don't get too invested in the court's decision on that one. 1 Quote
Josh Smith Posted September 7, 2014 Posted September 7, 2014 When I first read this, it was while sitting on the toilet. Appropriate, in a way. Dude, look: You stepped up a lot more than you needed to. Get the kids, wish the ex and the new bf best of luck, and be ready to go it alone. Pursue any child support the ex is ordered to pay with a vengeance, and try to get supervised visitations for the wife if there is any reason to think she might take the kids and run or if drugs are involved in any way. Josh Quote
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