Super User SirSnookalot Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 I'm happy as hell my wife has no interest in fishing, she's doing me a favor. 3 Quote
Super User Master Bait'r Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 Its become such a problem that I cant talk to her about my number 1 passion. She doesn't want to hear it. How do I get her to know this is actually a good thing? How do I show her it hasn't taken her spot in my life or whatever she could possibly be thinking. How do I get her to have more interest in my outings? To get her to go with me again? I love it when she does- so long as she brings a good attitude, patients, and a book to read. I love her there, her company is appreciated. HELP??? This does not bode well. She is now jealous of fishing and that will not change- once she's decided it's a bad thing it's 100% a bad thing and don't even bother trying to talk it out- logic has no place in a scorned woman's mind and you scorned her when you put catching fish above her enjoyment in telling her to hide behind a tree (lol... rookie move!) I wonder what it is about certain women that makes her want to simply own a man though? It's as if you don't love them if you don't cast aside every other ambition in order to just sit around and be ready to make them happy at a moment's notice. It's as if enjoying something else besides their company means you don't love them. One thing is certain though- if the wife isn't happy, you won't be. She will continue to make you feel guilty for doing what you love until you either a- put her in her place or b- make concession to her and come to an agreement that leads to finding a happy medium... and only you can know which- and to what degree- will apply to your situation. Good luck! Quote
Super User Felix77 Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 Does your wife have a hobby or passion which drives her. If so help nurture that sometimes. I discovered fishing after marrying my wife. I also helped her discover photography. Now we share our stories with one another. On occasion when I am fishing and she is taking pics alongside me are priceless. 1 Quote
Super User bigbill Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 Sometimes a picnic lunch helps. Or a nice dinner out and a movie. You need to bond tighter with her. You need to win her over to the outdoors. The ratio of women fisherman in my family is 4 to 2. That's four that fishes. Quote
Super User Choporoz Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 Does your wife have a hobby or passion which drives her. If so help nurture that sometimes. I discovered fishing after marrying my wife. I also helped her discover photography. Now we share our stories with one another. On occasion when I am fishing and she is taking pics alongside me are priceless. Wow!! Almost exactly what I was going to type! Two great passions that complement often, but also afford each of us to explore our hobbies independently at times. Its a perfect match for us. My wife loves going fishing with me - and she outfishes me on numerous occassions....but other days, she ends up spending half the day shooting from the boat. I'm more than happy to run down the lake so she can get a good shot at a bald eagle.... if she continues to be great with my fishing. Quote
Super User bigbill Posted April 28, 2014 Super User Posted April 28, 2014 No relationship is perfect. Even at being married for 40 years it's still a work in progress. We never argue but we understand each other's needs and respect that. We need to do things we both like and dislike at times. I go with mine to plays at times. It's ok but I'm a big burly steelworker, ironworker kind of guy. I just don't belong watching Sally met Harry with kissy, kissy, and huggy, huggy while I'm thinking about that next 4am bass trip the whole time but I go. Harmony and happiness comes first. After 40 years she likes shooting with me. Go figure how many times she refused to go. Her girl friend and co worker is like my sister and now my misses is wanting to try everything now. I'm taking them both fishing soon. Shooting too. My misses took the ccw course and has her own gun I purchased for her. She likes shooting paper. Life is short and flies by so enjoy everyday. Quote
Basswhippa Posted April 30, 2014 Posted April 30, 2014 I was out in the yard one day putting a new lawn mower together.A friend stopped by from the bass club,said lets go fishing.I said here hon,finish putting this together.I loaded up the boat,when I got home,the grass was even cut.We are planning on remarring this summer.Back in the 80's I fished tournaments,I had it bad for fishing.She nevered said a word.. Classic "good hearted woman" there. LOL Classic story. We need more women like your X wife and soon to be new again wife. LOL Quote
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