13 Things The Mentally Strong Don’T Do ~

[A-Jay]

Something to think about.

 

Additionally, I believe quite a bit of this can be applied to one's angling.

 

A-Jay

 

13 Things The Mentally Strong Don’t Do ~

 

 1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

 

 2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

 

3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

 

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

 

5. Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

 Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

 

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

 

7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

 

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

 

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people's success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

 

10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

 

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

 

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

 

13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

 

 

 

[Montanaro]

I would like to say I fit all 13.

 

But I think everyone can think of examples where they match all those things.

[slonezp]

Good post A-Jay. I know people who fail in all 13 categories and they are the most miserable people to be around. 

[Brian Needham]

leave it to A-Jay to be level headed and make sense.....

[BassinLou]

Thanks for that post A-Jay.

[NorcalBassin]

Very nice. So true that the more of those categories present in someone's life, the more miserable they're likely to be.

[A-Jay]

Thanks guys.

 

It should be noted that I never said that I was in this category.

 

I strive daily to make a conscious and honest effort in these areas by controlling my mind.

 

A-Jay

[K_Mac]

My original post did not survive the recent site crash, so I'll say it again: I think this list should be a central part of the curriculum of every school in the country . I think we all should read it regularly to remind us that life is what we make of it. Excellent post A-Jay.

[retiredbosn]

Very good post, gives us all something to strive toward.

[EvanT123]

A post like this makes me put things in perspective and reminds me we only live one moment at a time and to strive to make ithe best of it.

Thanks Ajay

[SirSnookalot]

My first post didn't survive either, I can sum it with one statement, " when the going gets tough, the tough get going".  Speaking only from my own personal observations these traits are often times handed down included in our own DNA.  Directions we take in life can be attributed to how we are raised from early childhood.  My father was as mentally tough as any one I had ever seen, I picked it up from him.  Was I as tough as him, not even close.  I was raised with privilege meaning, food always on the table, warm clothes, 2 parents that nurtured me, didn't want for much and education was stressed above everything else, I was raised for success.  My dad on the other hand grew up during the depression, quit school in the 8 th grade, picked up coal on the train tacks to heat their home and all kinds of odd jobs and so much more, that's pressures I never experienced, they called him 1 shirt Harry cause he owned only 1 shirt.  When I whined to father about business being really poor in times of recession, he simply said and not near this delicate, "get off your fat butt, the action is out there", he was always right.  I don't think motivation can be taught in school, we get it from our family.

[Bankbeater]

That is so true.  Good post A-Jay.