Spouses

[Bluebasser86]

While we are on the topic guys, I would like to ask a question.

 

I am looking for a small assortment of lures for her to start regularly using to build some confidence. I often end up tying her on random lures as I find a pattern and she has to learn a new technique on the spot.

 

Anyone have any suggestions for lures? I am simply wanting her to have a small arsenal of lures available to her that she is confident in as she ties on, not something she is spending more time concentrating on learning to use and getting bored.

 

My ideas so far:

 

Rage tail / Zoom Fat Albert grubs on an exposed jighead.

Wacky rig.

Texas rig.

Split shot rig.

My wife fishes a wacky rig and swimming grub a lot along with small chatterbaits, spinnerbaits, and cranks. The little 1/8oz micro chatterbaits, Booyah pond magic spinnerbait, and KVD 1.0 or LC 0.5 are the ones she fishes the most. 

[flippin and pitchin]

My wife goes with me pretty often when the weather is nice. She's not much for going when it's really hot or cold but she'll go in worst conditions than a lot of folks will. I bought her a really nice combo a few years ago so she could have more trouble free fishing so it was easier for her to enjoy. She's still looking for a big bass, been close a couple times, just can't get one in the boat. 

 

 

You actually let your bride use your favorite pink rod !!!!!  What a guy.

[flippin and pitchin]

The last time DeAnn was in the boat with me, she picked up a rod and tossed a spinnerbait out ( casting reel ! Don't whine and say, " I just can't use a casting reel ")  and caught " some weeds" which turned out to be a 4 plus largemouth. I was blanked. She's never been in the boat since.  That was over 27 years ago.  Me hold a grudge ?  Not me....no way.

[Bluebasser86]

You actually let your bride use your favorite pink rod !!!!!  What a guy.

I have fished with her newer pink rod and it's a really nice rod. It's a 6' 6" ML/F St. Croix Avid Pearl that costs more than several of my rods though so it better feel nice. 

[Zseen]

I went to a local lake and the frog bite was just amazing, so the next morning I asked the wife to go. I knew she would have fun watching those big bass blow up on the frogs. So we get out there and get all setup. She cast out and was reeling the frog across the pads real slow, and out of the water came this 5 or 6lb bass and just crushed the frog... She threw my d**n pole in the lake... I was like WTH, she was just scared to death, and I was chasing a $250 setup sinking fast... lol 

 

It was a good day and when i got the pole back I laughed about it... Now I let her crappie fish with me haha 

[RoushBasser]

I went to a local lake and the frog bite was just amazing, so the next morning I asked the wife to go. I knew she would have fun watching those big bass blow up on the frogs. So we get out there and get all setup. She cast out and was reeling the frog across the pads real slow, and out of the water came this 5 or 6lb bass and just crushed the frog... She threw my d**n pole in the lake... I was like WTH, she was just scared to death, and I was chasing a $250 setup sinking fast... lol 

 

It was a good day and when i got the pole back I laughed about it... Now I let her crappie fish with me haha 

Wow, that was a close one! Great story!!

[rabidsquirrel]

I went to a local lake and the frog bite was just amazing, so the next morning I asked the wife to go. I knew she would have fun watching those big bass blow up on the frogs. So we get out there and get all setup. She cast out and was reeling the frog across the pads real slow, and out of the water came this 5 or 6lb bass and just crushed the frog... She threw my d**n pole in the lake... I was like WTH, she was just scared to death, and I was chasing a $250 setup sinking fast... lol 

 

It was a good day and when i got the pole back I laughed about it... Now I let her crappie fish with me haha 

 

Wow... That is so funny, and not so funny all at the same time! LMAO! 

[DINK WHISPERER]

Mine will really only go when she needs to touch up her tan.....but its ok with me cuz she takes good pics! 

[fadetoblack21]

Mine prefers the nap time she gets when I take the kid fishing, and that is the only interest she has shown in fishing and the outdoors. Luckily I have a very interested 9 year old who loves to explore the outdoors with me. 

[Big Bassman]

My wife and I have been together for 40 years and honeymooned on Table Rock Lake. She wasn't to happy about it and the accomodations at the fish camp weren't great either. She was handy with the dip net when we were dating but didn't fish and never went with me again after we married. Last year I suggested we should spend a little more time together considering we're getting older and asked her to try bass fishing with me again. First time out together she caught several small bass and liked it, probably went with me half dozen times. Now she has her own set of rods and is looking forward to going this season. Can't wait until she ties into a big one like some of the photos in this thread. She will be addicted then! Congrats to all you young fellas who have wives that go with you, it will make for a lifetime of memories!

[Big Jon]

I'll take my wife with me any time and every time she wants to or can go.

 

In the beginning, what worked for me was this.  Instead of "taking her fishing", I was the Guide for the day.

 

I did not fish at all.  I did anything and everything I could to ensure we had a good time.  And although everyone wants to catch fish, that was and never is the main objective of the trip. 

There's so much to it;   Knowing how and where to cast, bait selection, knots, hooking, fighting and landing a fish, using the net and fish handling.  Doesn't happen over night and there was no way I could "help" and fish at the same time.  So I chose to take it slow and "do the leg work". By doing my best to eliminate problems early on, each trip got a bit better and it wasn't long before I was working hard to keep up. 

We picked out her tackle together.  I started her on spinning gear.  It was much easier to teach casting basics with this tackle and her proficiency with it improved quickly.  Clearly there are a few limitation with spinning tackle but it's easy to ensure when together, we fish in a manner that is with in the abilities of both her and her tackle - in other words - I'm not taking out to Flip Mats with 10lb test. 

 

Turns out she is Waaaaaay more patient than I am.  She'll make a single cast with a stick bait last 10 minutes or more.   She Kills Me doing this - All the time - Also a swimjig has been her friend as well.  She started fishing it super slow and again took me to school.  It was great to see.

 

Keep it all as positive as you can.  Providing detailed descriptions was helpful: things like what a bite feels like, how to perform the hook set and why, what a bass does onced hooked and why.  LIke I said there's a lot to it and no detail or explanation is too small.  Include it all.

 

And Take a lot of pictures / video if you can.  I hope this helps.

 

A-Jay

 

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This was super helpful. I was trying to fish with my wife last year, but she didn't like it because I don't talk while I'm fishing. She wants to be able to talk. I think I'll take this advice and just be the guide. Not that I am much better than she would be, but I'm slightly ahead of the curve. Thanks.

[Big T]

Yep, my wife loves to fish. Also helps load and unload a 19 ft center console. She can hold her own at any boat ramp. I have seen jaws drop at the Wrightsville Beach boat ramp as she has shown more than one so called "hard core boater" up while backing the trailer down and pulling our boat out of water.

[Nitrofreak]

My wife and I have been together for 40 years and honeymooned on Table Rock Lake. She wasn't to happy about it and the accomodations at the fish camp weren't great either. She was handy with the dip net when we were dating but didn't fish and never went with me again after we married. Last year I suggested we should spend a little more time together considering we're getting older and asked her to try bass fishing with me again. First time out together she caught several small bass and liked it, probably went with me half dozen times. Now she has her own set of rods and is looking forward to going this season. Can't wait until she ties into a big one like some of the photos in this thread. She will be addicted then! Congrats to all you young fellas who have wives that go with you, it will make for a lifetime of memories!

 

Very nice !!!  Hang in there that day will come sooner than later now that she has her own set up's,  really nice story !!!

 

 

Yep, my wife loves to fish. Also helps load and unload a 19 ft center console. She can hold her own at any boat ramp. I have seen jaws drop at the Wrightsville Beach boat ramp as she has shown more than one so called "hard core boater" up while backing the trailer down and pulling our boat out of water.

 

My youngest daughter,  now 19, she was 17 at the time,   was scared to do any of this until one day she asked to tow the boat, we have been practicing in an empty parking lot for a few weeks before our first trip to the lake that we scheduled for her to tow the boat over,  I told her if she is serious about this then that means she does it all,  and she was all for it,  well long story short,  she backed in that morning with very little pressure at the ramp,   when we got back to load up it was a totally different story,  at first she did not have the confidence and did not want to go get the truck,   I told her we were going to set here until she did because that was the deal,  she finally worked up the courage to go get the truck and pulled down to the ramp,   as she arrived at the ramp another truck pulled right in front of her,  it took this guy about ten minutes to get his empty trailer in the water to load his boat,   3 more trucks waited in line behind my daughter as this guy tried and tried to get the trailer in the water,  she called me on the phone and asked if she had enough room to get our trailer in,   I said yes but it would be really tight,   just wait a few and we would be next,   well she said I have 3 more behind me,  if you think it will fit I would like to try,  I said,  show em' what you got then,   she pulled up while we were talking and all she asked was am I up far enough,   I replied yes and she backed it in from there,   2 minutes I was loaded and up off the water,   there were literally inches between the two truck mirrors,  as I ratcheted my bow strap,   guy's were already coming up to the truck and telling her what a great job she had done,   as we pulled out to the strap down area she had a crowd of guy's and gal's around the truck congradulating her on how well she did,  I was and still am one proud dad,  of course it helps I guess because she gets her good looks from me !!!

 

I share your pride that we have in our girls,  congrats !!!

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No, and Im glad.. I do not have to share my tackle.  

[TNBassin']

My wife went to Bass Pro today and did the meet and greet with KVD and Timmy Horton. Got some pics and autographs, and she even bought a new Daiwa bait caster today. Like I said....keeper.