It Seems To Me

[NoBassPro]

That there should be a time when your boss admits he's satisfied with your work. Now I'll admit my job is demanding and our work has its fair share of headaches, but when a client who happens to be well respected in our field gushes about my work it should mean something. He is far from the first. Now I'm well aware that the job market sucks right now, but I am getting tired of putting in the hours for a wholly ungrateful employer. I hate changing jobs, and have only done so when my previous employer went under, but this is pushing me.

[slonezp]

My boss signs my checks. I'm satisfied with my work. If he wasn't satisfied he wouldn't sign them. Life's way too short. Maybe you should go work for your client...

[NoBassPro]

He'd pay better.. And I have had to wait for my check once or twice..

FWIW if your boss isn't satisfied with your work he still has to sign your check. I've been through tis a time or two this year with people we have fired.

And one last thing, quit being an idiot and talking on matters beyond your understanding. I do know you are from Chicago and a union, I also know the people that run your area far better then you.

[K_Mac]

I've worked for people who were quick to praise and for those who felt that doing the job well was what they paid me for. i have always felt that the first is better, but as slonezp said life is too short to expect positive strokes from someone who is not wired that way. My last boss only met with me when he had some sort of concern, or bad news from corporate. It is a poor way of dealing with people, but that is how some folks are. Good luck.

[NoBassPro]

I've worked for people who were quick to praise and for those who felt that doing the job well was what they paid me for. i have always felt that the first is better, but as slonezp said life is too short to expect positive strokes from someone who is not wired that way. My last boss only met with me when he had some sort of concern, or bad news from corporate. It is a poor way of dealing with people, but that is how some folks are. Good luck.

Yea I understand that, it his way of going out of his way to find problems that causes problems on many levels. I know life is short and all, I'm just annoyed for the moment,

[Daddyodo]

He'd pay better.. And I have had to wait for my check once or twice..

FWIW if your boss isn't satisfied with your work he still has to sign your check. I've been through tis a time or two this year with people we have fired.

And one last thing, quit being an idiot and talking on matters beyond your understanding. I do know you are from Chicago and a union, I also know the people that run your area far better then you.

Boy do I know how you feel.I have a boss who is so self absorbed it's disgusting. He runs a sales division in the company I work for. I am his sales support guy, I write up 90% of his orders and take 100% of the blame when things go bad but.01% of the praise when things go right. He gets paid by salary and commission and bonuses based on preformance and it is up to me to make sure his customers stay happy. You think the guy would say thank you once in awhile but NNNNNNNNOOOOOO! And to top things off he is an _ss_whole, but I have a job so I guess I should not complain.

[NoBassPro]

Boy do I know how you feel.I have a boss who is so self absorbed it's disgusting. He runs a sales division in the company I work for. I am his sales support guy, I write up 90% of his orders and take 100% of the blame when things go bad but.01% of the praise when things go right. He gets paid by salary and commission and bonuses based on preformance and it is up to me to make sure his customers stay happy. You think the guy would say thank you once in awhile but NNNNNNNNOOOOOO! And to top things off he is an _ss_whole, but I have a job so I guess I should not complain.

I disagree, people should have the balls to complain. My boss happnes to be the owner.

[slonezp]

Being from Chicago and in a union has nothing to do with anything. I had a discussion with my son today about this very subject. "Hey dad, how about not getting crippled at your job anymore?"(I tore up my shoulder again. 2nd time in 3 years) "The only way I could do that is getting into management and my boss is an **** hole. I don't want to work for him" "But you do work for him." "No, I work for myself. If I was in management, I'd have to answer to him. If I do my job correctly, I only have to answer to myself" I don't know what you do for a living, nor do I care. What matters is you are happy with your life.

[NoBassPro]

Being from Chicago and in a union has nothing to do with anything. I had a discussion with my son today about this very subject. "Hey dad, how about not getting crippled at your job anymore?"(I tore up my shoulder again. 2nd time in 3 years) "The only way I could do that is getting into management and my boss is an **** hole. I don't want to work for him" "But you do work for him." "No, I work for myself. If I was in management, I'd have to answer to him. If I do my job correctly, I only have to answer to myself" I don't know what you do for a living, nor do I care. What matters is you are happy with your life.

Thats an answer i can respect

[preach4bass]

Slonezp, you're confused. You are evidently "happy with your life," but confused nonetheless. If you have a boss, you work for him.

[slonezp]

Slonezp, you're confused. You are evidently "happy with your life," but confused nonetheless. If you have a boss, you work for him.

No sir I don't. If he crossed me I'd walk away. I have a skill. I get paid well for what I do. While the owner of my company is sitting in the bar drinking or flying to Vegas to pizz away his money, I am putting that money in his pocket. In return, I have a house, car, and boat without the responsibility and liability that he endures. I can have all of this on my own if I wanted to take on all the responsibility/liability. He, on the otherhand cannot.

[VolFan]

Yep slo, you're confused.

And for NBP, if your current situation doesn't work for you, change it. Bellyaching on the internet is about the least likely thing to help other than getting you some keyboard strange. Which, if that helps, your boss isn't your main problem. Good luck

[Raider Nation Fisher]

No sir I don't. If he crossed me I'd walk away. I have a skill. I get paid well for what I do. While the owner of my company is sitting in the bar drinking or flying to Vegas to pizz away his money, I am putting that money in his pocket. In return, I have a house, car, and boat without the responsibility and liability that he endures. I can have all of this on my own if I wanted to take on all the responsibility/liability. He, on the otherhand cannot.

Well said sir, couldnt have phrased it any better than that.

[tipptruck1]

I was always told if the boss is not talking to you. You are doing you job right. I do not need some usually over paid idiot. Stroking my ego. I am getting paid to do a good job. I do not expect a good job. I have had a few say good job in the past. That was by complete surprise. Due to the work I did. It brought in more money for the company.

The same gos for when I do stuff for family. When family says I did a good job. I just brush it off and say what ever. I do not take positive phrases well even from family. Like I said they paid me to do a job. I don't expect any thing but money when I am done.

[SirSnookalot]

Everyone's situation is different, I wouldn't give advice one way or the other.........I'm not there.

The owner of the company of my last job in 1973 was a real sharp guy. He didn't get to the yard until 10:00, left at 2 or 3:00 to go to the casino every day, in those few hours he brought in so much business the company was highly profitable. We all knew our jobs and did them, he didn't have to be there and we liked it better when he was gone.

I couldn't stand this guy, we had a personality conflict, 2 years on the job I left to start my own company. He never once thanked me for anything, nor did I seek any accolade, I got paid and had a place to go everyday. I should have thanked him for giving me the job and teaching me the business, I would never have made it with out him. Being in business for 30 years showed me what he went thru, it wasn't always peaches and cream, he had pressures that he never outwardly showed, I didn't understand it all at the time of my employment.

I wish you well, whatever direction you take, the grass may or may not be greener elsewhere.

[Sam]

It means a lot to be told you did a great job. More than money or fame, especially for one who is watching what you do.

I tell my employees they are doing a great job, even when they do something average. it makes them feel better to get a "warm fuzzie" from time to time and they actually perform at a higher level.

Don't know why your boss has not told you that you did a great job. Maybe that is not his style. To have a client say nice things about you is the best "warm fuzzie" you can get so congrats to you for doing a great job for your client.

And don't jump out of a good paying job. Suck it up; know that you are a valuable asset to the company; and keep on trucking along looking for the next "warm fuzzie" from a client, coworker or the boss. But keep your eyes and ears open for other opportunities in your line of business, just to be on the safe side.

[rockchalk06]

Ive worked in Law Enforcement for almost 11 years now. 4 of that inside a Max Prison. Getting compliments from bosses being there are so many of them are few and far between. My old man (retired 29 year LEO) told me that if you need a pat on the back, go work at McDonalds. Your paycheck each month etc is your reward. Not changing the door codes on you at work is your reward. That badge on your heart means that you have the integrity and what it takes to do the job over someone else.

The saying goes not everyone can be a cop. Not everyone can be a Dr, lawyer, sales, own their own business etc etc etc. The fact that you have been doing something at the same job for a length of time without getting fired, wrote up etc and get paid is your pat on the back.

I will take 1 thank you from a civilian over 1000 pats on the back from a supervisor.

Twice in my career I was chewed out for being out of uniform followed up by two different sets of stripes pinned on my collar. No pat on the back or attaboys at work compares to that.

Yesterday I got 4 brand new tires on my truck. Went to Bass Pro and bought me the rod I have been researching for months. I did this because I have money from the job I bust my butt at 40 plus a week that I don't get pats on the back for where I d**n sure am not appreciated like I should be. But with that said the tires and rod..........that's my pat on the back

[Zoff]

Ive worked in Law Enforcement for almost 11 years now. 4 of that inside a Max Prison. Getting compliments from bosses being there are so many of them are few and far between. My old man (retired 29 year LEO) told me that if you need a pat on the back, go work at McDonalds. Your paycheck each month etc is your reward. Not changing the door codes on you at work is your reward. That badge on your heart means that you have the integrity and what it takes to do the job over someone else.

The saying goes not everyone can be a cop. Not everyone can be a Dr, lawyer, sales, own their own business etc etc etc. The fact that you have been doing something at the same job for a length of time without getting fired, wrote up etc and get paid is your pat on the back.

I will take 1 thank you from a civilian over 1000 pats on the back from a supervisor.

Twice in my career I was chewed out for being out of uniform followed up by two different sets of stripes pinned on my collar. No pat on the back or attaboys at work compares to that.

Yesterday I got 4 brand new tires on my truck. Went to Bass Pro and bought me the rod I have been researching for months. I did this because I have money from the job I bust my butt at 40 plus a week that I don't get pats on the back for where I d**n sure am not appreciated like I should be. But with that said the tires and rod..........that's my pat on the back

Know how you feel... 18years LEO here.

That said... I had a boss that would "at-a-boy" a select few. Only those who buried their heads in his butt. New boss now... good job when you go above and beyond. I agree that an "at-a-boy" is not necessary when you do your job. Above and Beyond... should be noticed.

[Raider Nation Fisher]

I know what my capabilities are as far as work goes. I do my job to the best of my abilities be on par with everyone else or above and beyond what is expected. Personally I would rather my boss tell his boss what a great job I am doing. Bringing home a paycheck is reward enough for me. I just dont feel it necessary to have someone tell me how great I am or am doing. I already know how great I am. I don't need someone to reaffirm this for me. As long as I'm not getting fussed at or lectured then that means I'm doing my job good.

[NoBassPro]

Well as usual you all read way too much into this. I am not looking for compliments from my boss, however his way of always coming up with more work is making it dang had to get my projects completed in a timely fashion, and is adding more hours to my week than I want. So, yes, I still think there should be a time when he says good enough a little sooner than he does, He's not a bad guy or anything like that, but wanting perfection and knowing what works are sometimes a little different. Its also the primary reason our turnover rate is well over 100% annually, it would make my life much easier if he'd be able to keep good people around.

As far as my comment about Chicago union guys, I was just referencing his general attitude. As a rule the people I know that actually have are far more decent than the people I know that think they have.

[slonezp]

I didn't take offense to the comment you made. Private unions are not like public unions as I can get fired just like anyone else. People have preconceived notions about unions and many of them are not true...but some of them are. To be a tradesman and work in Downtown Chicago one must be a union member. It's also required when doing any type of municipal work. It's the way business is done.

First off, I hope you're being compensated for the additional work. What do you think the outcome would be if you approached your boss and told him what you told us? Are you too proud to do that? It sounds like with all the turnover, you're the only guy he can rely on and he's taking advantage of that.

[rockchalk06]

Know how you feel... 18years LEO here.

That said... I had a boss that would "at-a-boy" a select few. Only those who buried their heads in his butt. New boss now... good job when you go above and beyond. I agree that an "at-a-boy" is not necessary when you do your job. Above and Beyond... should be noticed.

18 wow. I never thought I would have lasted 11. I have days where I wonder.

The puge divers always seem to get further ahead with less work.

[SirSnookalot]

By your own admission you have had to wait for paycheck or 2, that tells me business probably is not as strong as it could be, doesn't mean he is a bad businessman as these are not the best of times. Pressure for an owner of a business is not having enough income to pay all the obligations, like paychecks, healthcare, Soc, sec, taxes, various insurances, and the list never ends. Good chance your employer has more on his mind that patting your fanny, owners come with many different personalities.

IMO getting advice from a social network, whether it be BR, Facebook or whatever is getting opinions from people that have little or no idea of what you are going thru. If it were me and I needed to vent or get some help I'd be turning to wife, parents, co workers, associates working for other similar companies in the area, I may turn to my clergy for some spiritual or inspiration help.

[Bluebasser86]

Ive worked in Law Enforcement for almost 11 years now. 4 of that inside a Max Prison. Getting compliments from bosses being there are so many of them are few and far between. My old man (retired 29 year LEO) told me that if you need a pat on the back, go work at McDonalds. Your paycheck each month etc is your reward. Not changing the door codes on you at work is your reward. That badge on your heart means that you have the integrity and what it takes to do the job over someone else.

The saying goes not everyone can be a cop. Not everyone can be a Dr, lawyer, sales, own their own business etc etc etc. The fact that you have been doing something at the same job for a length of time without getting fired, wrote up etc and get paid is your pat on the back.

I will take 1 thank you from a civilian over 1000 pats on the back from a supervisor.

Twice in my career I was chewed out for being out of uniform followed up by two different sets of stripes pinned on my collar. No pat on the back or attaboys at work compares to that.

Yesterday I got 4 brand new tires on my truck. Went to Bass Pro and bought me the rod I have been researching for months. I did this because I have money from the job I bust my butt at 40 plus a week that I don't get pats on the back for where I d**n sure am not appreciated like I should be. But with that said the tires and rod..........that's my pat on the back

Know how you feel... 18years LEO here.

That said... I had a boss that would "at-a-boy" a select few. Only those who buried their heads in his butt. New boss now... good job when you go above and beyond. I agree that an "at-a-boy" is not necessary when you do your job. Above and Beyond... should be noticed.

Probably about as thankless an occupation a guy can have it seems. I've only been doing it almost 6 years now but I could count the "atta boys" or sincere "thanks yous" without taking my boots off. People love you when they need you but hate you when they don't. Doesn't bother me, I do my job and I do it well. I make decent pay, have a good time with most of my coworkers and some of my supervisors, but above all I'm going home at the end of the day. Getting the occasional overdo pat on the back just makes me appreciate them that much more.

[Bankbeater]

I have worked at the same place, and done the same thing for over 25 years now. I have had I guess around 10 bosses in that time. Some of them have been good, and some of them were back stabbers. It never took me long to figure out which type of boss I was working for. Point is that just because he is not giving you a "good job" all of the time does not mean he does not think you're doing a good job. It may just be the way he was taught to manage.