Facebook + Ex's + Marriage = ?

[Jig Meister]

X2. Wife can talk to whomever she wants. I never understood why so many people try and control something they have no control over. If she wants some strange then she gonna get some strange and there isnt a dang thing you can do about it to prevent it.

this sums it up pretty well.

she can have any friends she wants, but when they start to act up, she also knows that I reserve the right to knuckle up

[Jig Meister]

Normally, I wouldn't ask these things on a fishing forum, however I like the generally older more mature audience's views on topics because, in general, you have had more experiences in life and have better insight.

[Bassn Blvd]

this sums it up pretty well.

she can have any friends she wants, but when they start to act up, she also knows that I reserve the right to knuckle up

Exactly. If my wife wants to go to the movies with her friends or out for after work drinks with co-workers then go ahead. She has my blessings. I tell her to have fun and call me if she has more than a couple average drinks because i WILL NOT pick her up at the jail if she gets caught dui.

I look at it like this. If I have to worry about her not keeping her knees closed, then I shouldn't be married to her. Life it wat too short to worry about nonsense, I told her this when we were dating,

"Do what you want and go where you want. Be respectful and not make me worry about your safety and check in periodically to let me know you're ok. If I ever have to worry or have ideas of you cheating, then you probably screwed up somewhere along the way and left some sort of evidence, to which you will find your sht packed and out the door before you can say sorry."

[senile1]

I agree with some of the statements regarding relationship problems. If something is bad in your marriage, Facebook is not the cause of the problem. It is just another path for those with problems to stray. That's all. Rid youself of Facebook and the problem is still there. If you have a good relationship you won't be worried whether your mate has a Facebook account or not.

Why would you want your wife/girlfriend to have access to your FB anyway?

Why wouldn't you? My wife and I are in each other's friends lists. It is no different than being a contact in your mate's cell phone. It's just another means of communication, if needed, and I have nothing to hide if she looks at my page. Of course, we don't use Facebook much except to touch base with long lost or long distance friends. To me, I think it is a very impersonal way to relate to current friends who I see every day or week but they are still in my friends list.

[tholmes]

My ex is one of the many reasons that I don't do facebook.

Tom

[scrutch]

Go with your gut feeling. It's usually correct. If it bothers you, tell her about it. There's no replacement for communication in a relationship. She should honor your request if it bothers you that much. It might be a good gauge for how important you are to her. Actions speak louder...

[grimlin]

my ex wife of recent deleted me off.... I need to do the same,just haven't gotten around to do it.

No need to see their posts or vice versa. It'll just cause drama.

I have a hard time deleting some of her family off though(because of my son)....soon as they start anything they are gone. I don't post on facebook anymore anyways.

If you have a new person in your life,get rid of your exs. Leave the past where it is...in the past.

[ClackerBuzz]

i can tell you right now ur jealousy is not going to be the problem. hell hath no fury like a jealous woman. don't ever accept a friend request from an ex gf of urs unless you want to go thru months of hell till she finally admits what the problem is.

[Sniffles]

Me and my wife both had facebook. I wouldnt ever say facebook was the problem. But women will never see things like a man does.

After a few jealous fits by my wife. Over nothing. I suggested we both delete our facebooks. Afterall anyone who wants to be in your life was there before facebook and will continue to be after. If they cant contact you in any other way then they really don't care for you.

Its been a few months now, since we deleted them. and Im happy to say our marriage has never been better. in fact The last arguement we had was when we both had an account.

If she feels the need to stay connected via Social media. Suggest she make a Twitter. as they are far less personal. but still satisfys her urge to creep on people.