No Logic What So Ever

[clayton86]

The army has no logic what so ever. I'v had some Issues arise at home and am trying to get emergency leave because my wife has been in the hospital for 3 days now and will continue to stay there for an unknown time. My wife had a abscess under her tooth a month ago and had surgery on it now shes in the hospital with MRSA and Cellulitis normally not a big issue but its been spreading and she went into septic shock Monday which is what landed her in the hospital in the for this long stay. Now my kids don't have either parent and my wife's leg is basically eating itself and covered with sores as her BP drops and white blood cell cant climbs there keeping her longer. My oldest son is showing signs of staph/MRSA as well and is being brought in. there is no one home to watch my kids 3 and 1 today the 1st was his birthday they are being baby sat by a 11 year old who shouldn't be left alone her self let alone 2 baby's.

The army and red cross doesn't see this as a problem and are denying my emergency leave to take care of my kids and wife till she recovers. This is all after they just sent a guy home cuz his wife is cheating on him that was E leave, another guy went home cuz his wife dislocated her shoulder he got e leve for 2 weeks to help her and they have no kids and another who returned yesterday just hd 2 weeks e leave for his wife's gal bladder surgery because she needed help with there kids. Yet I'm being denied I don't think it makes any sense my wife is actually being hospitalized for a length of time and needs the help let alone my kids are in the care of a 11 year old is our only option. It makes no sense what so ever so iv appealed it and my CO and 1st SGT are behind me 100% and taking it to the top for me sense the red cross fell short on it and refuses to do anymore claiming its "out of there hands now"

Am I wrong for thinking the way I do it seems everyone here agrees with me and thinks I deserve it and need to go be a parent maybe were all wrong and just sick of the piles of BS that seems to be dumped on us here.

[J Francho]

Jesus, dude. What can I do to help? Text me anytime.

[MCS]

You and your family are in our prayers. Let me know if there is anything I could do.

It sounds like you have a right to be upset, doesn't make any sense how they can deny you.

But then again what makes sense these days, at any job, the policies and hoops are rediculous.

I hope all the best for you and your family. Hope she and the little one get well soon.

[Captain Obvious]

Prays sent man that is just sick. Hope your family gets better.

Capt.O

[A-Jay]

Clearly you are not going to be able to focus on your job there with this very serious situation going on at home.

This makes you more of a hazard to your unit than any help. They should be helping you get home any way they can. Have your family or the Hospital Re-contact the Red Cross - Your situation is what Emergency Leave

Is For.

Go find your Chaplin (Or your Senior Medical Officer if there is no Chaplin available) - plant yourself in the office and tell them that you're not able to focus on anything but your situation at home. Have the Chaplin contact your Command while you're there. Don't leave until you have solid arrangements that get you home. What's the worst thing they can do - No Officer worth his salt is going to fault you - don't stand for this - We all understand "needs of the service" but this is your Life man -

Good Luck and I hope your wife is OK.

A-Jay

[clayton86]

Well our company commander as he put it said "I'll go to bat for you with the big guys just give me ammo to present them" so I wrote a letter and so did my mother explaining the situation because the hospital and red cross have been no help what so ever they have been called several times and they keep saying the same thing "its out of our hands its not life or death situation". My entire chain of command is backing me on this and want to send me home for as long as needed and still be able to return to duty.

I'm pretty good at blocking stuff out to do my work here I mean today I was at the very front ECP checking cars and ID's coming onto post didn't even think about it really other then when i seen my CO and 1st Sgt pull up i was hoping it was to take e back to pack a bag but they were going to lunch at another base lol. Everyone here is helping out pushing it so I can get home the only one not helping is my team leader but hes a POS anyways.

[A-Jay]

Hang in there -

As for your "Team Leader" - Carma is headed his way, and it might not be pretty.

A-Jay

[nick76]

I know this may not help, but if you can contact your local congressman/ senator. They may be able to push things along for you if you are not getting the answers you need. My B-I-L was being medically discharged after having a stroke and they yanked him around for almost 6 months. He finally contacted our local congressman and had his stuff taken care of almost immediately. Not sure how it will work for you, but it can't hurt.

[deaknh03]

Leave, leave now and take care of your family. Deal with the repercussions later, right now your family should be the first priority. Good luck and wishing the best for your wife and kids.

[Raider Nation Fisher]

Damnit boy. That's horrible. If myself and/or my family can help in anyway let me know.

[clayton86]

well as it stands right now my Company Commander gave it the ok the battalion commander gave it the ok so now its up to the top guy the colonel of all of us here in Kuwait. I have a meeting with the S1 about going home in 15 minutes and was told to pack a bag so hopefully they send me home.

My wife signed her self out yesterday sick of the hospitals and the armys bs so she could take care of the kids but now shes just right back in there I guess she blacked out. I'm sure everything will be fine thanks for everyone's thoughts and prayers.

[Jake P]

Damnit man, I'm hopping by now you're in a plane flying home to you're family. Its reasons like this I always wanted to join the military but never will. I hope your family is ok brother. let us know how everything is going.

[clayton86]

Nope not on my way home just sitting waiting for "approval" right now its up to one man a colonel way way way above my pay grade but he has no reason to say no especially with every other stop before him has given it the go ahead. My bag is packed my paperwork is done everyone is notified just waiting for that one guy to say go and I'll be off. Even once I get the go ahead it takes a few days to get back there giving me 2 weeks though.

[preach4bass]

Great news! Hope you can get your family squared away over the next couple of weeks.

[J Francho]

Call me if you want to get out after you get things in order.

[Jig Meister]

Tough news, hope everything is alright with your situation, thoughts on you all.

[Marty]

Best wishes to you and your family.

The army has no logic what so ever.

There's a reason for the ancient saying, "there's the right way, the wrong way and the army way."

[nick76]

There is also the old saying, "if the army wanted you to have a wife they would have issued you one."

With that said........hope things have worked themselves out.

[clayton86]

Well they came in at 1615 yesterday said get into civilians and grab your bag. I was at Kuwait city airport shortly after that and after a long 13hr flight I'm in Washington dc waiting to board ny flight to buffalo.

The army pulled threw for once and got me home faster then I expected.

John I might just take ya up on the offer if the wifes doing better. I have till the 17th

[Sam]

_{Who are your congressmen and senators?}

_{They need to know what is going on.}

_{Remember, in the Army it is and will continue to be "hurry up and wait."}

[J Francho]

John I might just take ya up on the offer if the wifes doing better. I have till the 17th

Name the time, and I'm there.

[NorcalBassin]

Glad to hear you're back. Hopefully everyone's well and you get a chance to get out prior to heading back. Thanks for keeping us posted.

[clayton86]

Everythings good she's on antibiotics and out of the hospital. She has a giant hole in her leg but it looks good as in healing good.

I'm taking my oldest out tomorrow he got a new pole and some hooks and stuff he's estatic im home and bugging me to go fishing. It's definitly nice being home again my boys have grown so much.

[deaknh03]

Dude, you get to open all that stuff you've been buying!

[clayton86]

Dude, you get to open all that stuff you've been buying!

Oh yeah!!! I already did I went and bought 8 more 3700 boxes to fit it all.