Do You Spank Your Kid(S)?

[Bassn Blvd]

My 4 yr old never had the "terrible twos" or threes. He was a perfect angel and NEVER gave his mom and me any trouble. He is now 4 years old and lately has begun to be a real pain in the ars, which I'm almost certain I know why, but that's another story that has to do with my in-laws who like to spoil.

The wife and I go out to breakfast this morning. I park the truck and open the back doors. I tell our son to go ahead and unbuckle his seatbelt and get out. The little sht looked straight at me and said "I don't think so. I'm NOT going!" With a very calm, soft voice, I said "Don't talk to me like that. Come on, lets go." LOL, he crosses his arms and turns his head away from me. I bit my lip and said "Son, I'm going to count to 3 and you had better be out of this truck. If not, then I'm going to spank you." I counted to three and he completely ignored me. It broke my heart, but I reached in, unbuckled the seatbelt and snatched his ars out of his seat. I stood him up in the parkining lot and gave him four, fast swats on the ars with my hand.

He fought back the tears for about 5 seconds. Just as he started to cry from hurting his feelings (not from the ars pain, he was wearing a padded pull up.) I heard a voice from the next isle over. The voice was coming from a lady who said "I just saw you hit that kid and I'm calling the cops if you do it again." I replied "Mind your own business, you old hag."

LMAO, My wife looks at me and says "really babe, Old Hag?" LOL, the lady was about 45 yrs old and I didn't want to say what I really wanted to call her so, for some reason, Old Hag is the first thing that popped into my head.

Anyway, does anyone spank their kids? Is anyone dead set against corporal punishment?

By the way, my son was the most perfect gentleman for the rest of the day.

[Scorcher214]

I applaud you sir. I never got spanked, I didn't need to be spanked. But I think If more people spanked there kids, well kids wouldn't be the jack wagons they are today. I wish I could spank other people's kids.

Kudos on the old hag comeback.

[tipptruck1]

I don't have a kid that I know of. But I would spank my kid if needed. I was spanked but only if needed like you did. My brother who was also spanked. But he never learned. I remember my mom breaking wooden spoons over his butt. All he would do is laugh. Punishment never did any thing for him. You would think he would learn about it after he served time in prison. Nope that didn't do any thing. Today he is a spoiled little brat. That thinks the world revolves around him. On top of it he was a alcoholic by 18. I can not stand being around him when he is drunk. He turns in to a mean spoiled little brat. I want to kick his butt, and hes my brother. I would spend a night in jail just to teach him a lesson.

I had my dad only hit me once. I don't recall what I did, but I know I had it coming. I was about 14 at the time. He straight up open hand slapped me. I never did some thing to be hit like that again.

[slonezp]

My son is 22, so I haven't spanked him in a year or two LOL. I still remember he was 3 or so. We were at the grocery store and he was getting out of line. I gave him a look and he started yelling "Don't crack me dad, don't crack me." Spanking is spanking and not abuse. Take a look at the youth of today and tell me if you think they should have been spanked as they were growing up.

[Bassn Blvd]

I wish I hadn't have given him the ultimatum of getting out by the count of three or getting spanked.I just didn't know what to do when he ignored me after getting to three. I went with my instinct and that was to do what I said I was going to do and not back down. Don't think for a second that it didn't darn near kill me to spank my "little man." It crushed my heart, as I'm sure it did his too.

[Bassn Blvd]

My son is 22, so I haven't spanked him in a year or two LOL. I still remember he was 3 or so. We were at the grocery store and he was getting out of line. I gave him a look and he started yelling "Don't crack me dad, don't crack me." Spanking is spanking and not abuse. Take a look at the youth of today and tell me if you think they should have been spanked as they were growing up.

LMAO, I can just hear the voice of a 3 yr old saying that. "Don't crack me." His choice of words are hilarious.

I hear ya about the spanking vs. abuse. That's what ticked me off about that lady interfering with her comment. It's obvious she seen me spank him on the butt with an open hand, cleary not abuse. I wanted to walk over to her and say "Bi***, people like you are a big reason why we have punks roaming the streets."

[AK-Jax86]

My first child, my baby boy, is going to be born on Monday and I hope I don't EVER have to spank him... if I do it won't be like my father spanked me when I was little... I was bad and he use to whoop my lil ass lol

[clayton86]

Im mixed on the subject I don't like spanking but at the same time I wont tell some one else how to raise there kids. I have before and sure I will again spank my son well both of them jack will be hitting the terrible twos when i get back from this deployment. my wife spanks both of them for little things and it doesn't phase them one bit but If I even raise my voice my oldest Noah will just start balling his eyes out and run over and hug me saying hes sorry. the times iv spanked or swatted his hand usually for beating on his little brother he will ball and run to his room then peak out watching me wanting to come back over to me and it lasts about 30 seconds till i feel like a piece of crap and and go over and pick him up which I know I shouldn't do but I do it anyways because I feel bad.

So even though I don't like spanking I still spank my son i think the only reason I don't like it is my mom used to beat the **** outa me wooden spoon, belts, hair brush back handed with her big class ring basically what ever she could find. So I think I don't like it only cuz of fear of turning into my mother who i hate and despise. My father has never laid a hand on me and never honestly even yelled at me he always gave me the im disappointed in u look/talk which was way worse that any beating my mother gave me. I don't think spanking is good or bad as long as it doesn't leave a mark and isn't carried away like wooden spoons and what not even though I think i turned out fine and I received it all the time like every day lol.

[MrSwimJig]

Yes spanking is approved in our house and yes it does get their attention and improves their little attitudes.

[J Francho]

Spanking doesn't have to be abuse. It didn't work on my older son at all. My youngest responds to a slight tap on his butt with total humiliation and regret. I don't think one thing works on all kids.

[Broke bass fisherman]

I feel for you. My oldest sounds exactly like yours. Perfect angel until this year. I spank her, and she cries about how we hurt her feelings. I hate to spank, coming from a very abusive past, it breaks my heart every time, but it seems to be the only thing that gets her attention some times. I will say that I don't spank in public, because of the same reason you mentioned in your story. I think it is a shame. I understand watching out for the welfare of children but a small spanking isn't going to hurt them probably build a little character. Hope it works out for you I find the miracle to keep her well behaved I will let everyone know.

[deaknh03]

My 5 year old daughter gets a tap on the butt once in a while. I actually spanked her yesterday after she spit a mouthful of water on her 2 year old brother as we were driving. Pulled the car over, took her out of her seat, and spanked her. The little **** is so tough, she cries out of surprise, then 5 seconds later she's back to normal. Spanking is not working with her.

[slonezp]

Kids are still going to be kids. Without some type of discipline, they will only get worse. Did you hear about those kids that posted the video making fun of their 68yo bus monitor? Disgraceful to say the least. I was no angel growing up and got the belt plenty. If it taught me nothing else, it did teach me to respect people. I'm not advocating the belt and never hit my son with a belt. But, a little discipline when they're young will make life a whole lot easier for them as they get older.

[Dave P]

My daughter got spanked. I'll bet in the entire time she was growing up, she got it maybe 5 times. Mostly before she started school. Later, I only had to ask her if she wanted to get her azz paddled to produce the desired effect.

[BASSclary]

I don't have kids, but I was spanked as a child. I have no problem with that and when I have kids a guarantee they will get a spanking too.

I think far too many people are concerned over child-abuse, which is food, but they dont know the line between discipline and abuse.

[Triton21]

A wise man once told me that there was a "Direct Line" from the azz to the brain. I had to spank my son to get his attention when he was young. He has grown into a fine man who has raised a wonderful son and daughter using the the same guidelines he was raised by.

Kelley

[scrutch]

My kids get choices. They get to make the choice. Make the wrong choice and there will be consequences. I try to always make the punishment fit the crime. They range from a stern warning to a full on spanking. They ALWAYS get love after a consequence. After the smoke has cleared, I talk to them to make them understand what was wrong with that choice and even though I spank them, I always will love them. My kids will hopefully be good decision makers when they're older.

[GLADES]

Kudos. That old hag lady should have minded her own business. Kids want to test their boundaries and each parent has to discipline the child as they see fit. If they lose respect for their parent at age 4-5, how will they listen at age 11-17? My daughter pick up some rebellious language as soon as she started PK3. We chose a private religious school thinking the environment and behavior of the children would be better. Wrong! Some of those kids are telling their parents off already. It seems like the parents are waiting for the school to undo the disrespect. That is the parents job IMHO.

[Raider Nation Fisher]

My son gets spanked. Honestly though now just the mention of the threat has the desired affect. He is only spanked for severe disobedience. Otherwise he is given a choice between a action and a punishment. It seems to be working like a charm right now. It is actually very rare that I have to spank him.

As for the woman who commented to you. She would have been calling the police to pry my wife off of her. I don't tell you how to raise your kids or live your life, I expect the same in return. If you threaten ny family or myself you better be prepared for the repercussions. I dont take crap from anyone and my wife is ten times worse then me. I handle the men she handles the women. I can't stand people like that. Those people are what is wrong with the world today. They and all their PC garbage and views on life should put on a boat, sailed to the middle of the pacific, and have the boat sunk. Grrrrrrrrrrrr. Now I have gotten myself all worked up.

[clayton86]

My oldest gets more worked up if i send him to time out he will ball and say sorry but if my wife tries it he just laughs and gets up and runs around same with her spanking now if i do either hes a mess of emotions same with my youngest but he is the same even when the wife punishes him. Jack the youngest is a mamas boy Noah the oldest is a daddy's boy he tries to be like me in every way possible and always trying to impress me or be the center of my attention which he usually is so when I get after him for being bad he really changes his tune. Iv had to Skype with him several times sense iv been gone to control him because he doesn't care if my wife punishes him.

[Bassn Blvd]

My kids get choices. They get to make the choice. Make the wrong choice and there will be consequences. I try to always make the punishment fit the crime. They range from a stern warning to a full on spanking. They ALWAYS get love after a consequence. After the smoke has cleared, I talk to them to make them understand what was wrong with that choice and even though I spank them, I always will love them. My kids will hopefully be good decision makers when they're older.

I'm the same way. I will NOT spank out of anger and I make every effort to make sure the punishment fits the attiude.

Discipline is a learned behavior. Your not born knowing how to act.

[SoFlaBassAddict]

I had to do it to each of my daughters exactly once. Just the thought of it now makes them regret doing anything bad.

[deaknh03]

Spare the rod, spoil the child. It was true then as it is now. Too many people are pussbag democrats, and thats why the majority of the newer generations have no respect for anyone, including themselves.

[deaknh03]

I didnt type democrats, it was liber*ls. Not the same, but close.

[Jake P]

First off, you were a LOT nicer than i would have been to the woman who corrected you while discipling YOUR kid. Her ears would have been bleeding. I remember hearing from a cop a while ago that as long as there is no blood or cuts above or below the waist, it is called discipline.

I got my ace WHOOOOOOOPED by my dads big rodeo belt.....and buckle, more than a couple times. He used to tell me "your about to get your ass whooped son" so i would go in my room and put on all the underwear i had LOL. Now i would never do my kids the way i was done becausei think it was a little harsh. I never got hit anywhere but on the butt and it was never abuse. But that belt was a little bit bigger than big.

As for if i spank my kids or not, sort of. My daughter is 1 so no. My son however is going on 3 so he has his moments. I never spank him out of anger, only when i give him a choice and he chooses wrongly. And even then i wouldnt call it a spank so much as a "hard tap". Just enough to get his attention. If i have to, its always only once and he is a gentlemen for the rest of the day.