Sorry for the delayed response, I never noticed the post prior to today. I'm not sure why you wrote "Just saying" so many times, it came across as kind of snarky. I will assume it was not meant that way. In any case, let me address a few of your points that I quoted.
Glenn, I am not sure where you live, but if you watch any media from most of the the major cities in America, you definitely see a sneer from them towards the lesser densely populated areas of the U.S. It shows up in TV & movies, on the news and online. That is why the term "Fly-over country" originated, the concept that those on the major cities of the coasts summarily dismiss those in the middle of the country as not being as worthwhile as themselves. The culture of these cities is the antithesis of the culture found in most suburbs & less densely populated areas. I am not promoting this and it may not exist where you live, but it is a well known fact.
Legislation limiting access to outdoor access is already part of the culture of densely populated areas. Tom (WRB) can testify to the damage that the California Coastal Commission has wreaked on California outdoorsmen in the name of environmentalism. I am not creating this wall, this division, it already exists and is initiated & promoted as part of the culture of those in densely populated areas. To believe that "we can just all get along" is a bit Pollyanna-ish and has led to bureaucracies like this running over the outdoor users.
Lastly, I believe your definition of a big city is off. Houston has a population of over 2.25 million, while New Orleans is 385 thousand and Birmingham is 215 thousand. Where I live here in Orange County, we have 3 cities (Anaheim, Santa Ana & Irvine) all with larger & more dense populations than Birmingham and none of them would be considered a big city. Anaheim, the home of Disneyland, has about the same population as New Orleans in an area 1/7th the size (50 sq miles compared to 350 sq miles) and again, it would not be considered a big city.
What it comes down to in my opinion is we should go to the places that want us, that rejoice in our arrival and are happy that we are there. If that makes us the big fish in a small pond, so be it - as Mel Brooks said "It's good to be the king"