Welcome to life.
It hits you pretty hard when you're 17 or 18 and have never worked but suddenly, you're expected to. Sadly, I put a great deal of that blame on mom and dad for not encouraging you to get a job before you graduated.
You say:
LOL, yeah, they are. Last time I checked, "relaxing and chilling" is the textbook beginnings of full on laziness.
If you're not out there, working to get better, you're getting passed by the people who are.