Its all preference but I use higher gear ratios like 7-8 for stuff like Texas rigs.
Calming yourself down is a mental game, that being said you don't wanna give to fish awhole lot of time, you wanna set that hook as soon as you can reel up the slack, don't just jerk as soon as you feel it and have really sloppy hook sets though.
Remember, the first tick is the fish biting your lure and the second tick is them spitting it out, and you don't always feel the first tick