It looks like I'm late on this thread. I was out of town for the weekend. Are you telling me that when a beautiful woman walks into your field of vision, unexpectedly, that you close your eyes or turn your head? If you or your wife have women friends that are attractive, do you speak to them with your eyes closed? If an attractive woman waits on you at a place of business, again, are you closing your eyes? Of course not. That would be ridiculous. So, by the actual definition of the word, look, you do look. I think what you mean is you don't make a show of drooling and looking at a woman up and down. You look when it is necessary to look just as you would look at a man if he was talking to you, waiting on you, etc. So we all look. I think what you mean is, you don't ogle women. And I agree with your point, and others, that it is disrespectful to one's mate to ogle women.