I have gotten a lot of advise on this subject. Between My moms mom, Mom, Dad, Dads mom, and friends,
There is 8 weddings in there. 6 divorces 1 widow, on being married for almost 60 years. My moms mom and my mom have the same view. Mom was married once. Grandma was married three times. Struck out twice. Once widowed . They both say its fine if I never get married. My dad was twice divorced. He would never do it again. I can not repeat what he told me on a pg 13 forum.
My buddy who might be working on a divorce after his wife of almost 10 years. Told him she was seeing a other guy. He really had nothing to say bad about it yet. They were together for almost 15 years in total. He told me she was his friend. Like Long mike said. He is only 33-34.
My grandma that has been married for almost 60 years. She tells me every day how she hated who she married. I do not blame her. My grandpa is a jerk. The funny thing is I can tell she wants me to get married. Yet she hates the idea of marriage.
I have no interest in getting married for the foreseeable future. Will I get married? Maybe one day. I just do not know. People telling me the negatives of getting married are not scaring me away. I have many reasons why I do not ant to get married. The huge factor for me is the the what if factor. Not the divorce what if. Will I be able to take care of my kids and wife. If she would lose a job, or be come injured and needs help for the rest of her life. Or vise verisa if it would happen to me. The other is I am a very private person. I come home to a empty house and enjoy it. I get home on Friday night. I turn off my phone and do not talk to a single person in till money at work.