Casts_by_fly, I smiled when I read your post… my wife and I have been on the same journey, but started 3 years ago. I’m not ready to retire but can work remote and so we started our search of several SE locations. Your wife sounds similar to mine, likes the beautiful outdoors but needs to be by a decent size enough metro area.
We spent 3 years, many visits, and more money than I care to think about - lots of research, fly-ins, hotels, VRBO’s, due diligence trips, etc. Some places we went back to 4-5 times.
The final verdict is no place is perfect and they all have their pluses and warts.
We spent a lot of time in: Naples, St. Augustine, Nashville, Charleston, Nexton, Hilton Head, Knoxville, Greenville, Clemson, Charlotte. Plus a few other places ~
Some of our findings:
•Charleston/Santee was our first destination and one we looked forward to the most. Regrettably, it ended up last on our list at the end of 3 years of research. Santee is a well known lake with big fish but few and far between as it gets hammered by constant tournaments. Charleston is cool “to visit” but we decided we wouldn’t want to live there. Great history, landmarks, restaurants, etc. But by the second/third time we visited, realized it was a land-locked industrial port city at its core. It is at/below sea level and floods every year… stinky, musty, and a bit liberal for our liking. A hurricane would be devastating there.
•Hilton Head/Bluffton, etc. Really little to no bass fishing, would have to switch to Redfish. They are great, but I’d have to get a saltwater boat and at the end of the day would miss the green fish.
•Nashville, fun town, growing pains, seemed a bit far from really good fishing in the eastern part of the state.
•Charlotte, we both liked it but it is getting big and bad traffic. We heard repeatedly that it’s the next Atlanta which is enough to say no. Norman/Wylie are ok lakes but more crowded, pressured than I’d care for.
•St. Augustine older/smaller than we liked… but the combination of nearby bass lakes, and great saltwater fishing - might be the best spot we visited in terms of pure fishing opportunities.
•Greenville, SC is where we ended up, but we’re renting so who knows. Our daughter moved here to be near her new man so that was the final decision maker for us. Best urban downtown in America we’ve ever seen. All walks of life, different ages, races, etc. river walk, restaurants, low crime, awesome fun town. The way it should be. Smaller and more quaint than Minneapolis (of course, even before it became an undesirable metro area and semi-war zone). The suburbs in Greenville are hit/miss though, they haven’t figured out how to develop this high growth town - there are new suburbs, but they're right next to old industrial areas, trailer parks, bad roads, etc. There's good proximity to many lakes - Hartwell, Jocassee, Murray. Jury is still out on the quality of fishing here. So far it seems “average to slightly below average” compared to north Florida, Minnesota, East Tennessee, etc. But the area has an incredible year round 3 season climate (no real winter) and it “blows us away” every day how little to no wind there is here. I used to have a Pro-V Bass… you wouldn’t need something that substantial here honestly.. but it would be a great boat on the few days it gets a little windy.
•Knoxville… we wrote it off initially because it’s a college town. But each time we were there it really impressed us. I think I’d like the fishing in East Tennessee even better than upstate South Carolina. But in the end, my wife liked the size/city of Greenville better… and our daughter is here 👍
Good luck with your decision. Life is too short to freeze your arse off up North for half the year!