Leaderboard

Fight their whole family. It's really only the logical thing to do.

Sorry for the poor grammer in my last couple posts, was rusing it on my phone at work during break. As for asking him the problem, we have done that and have really only got two different answers. "Don't know" or "its fun" We are going to try the ignoring thing next. Also I did not consider that he was seeking attention from his brother, that actually makes alot of sense, will check that out as well. I really do appreciate the info and ideas from everyone. I do have one question for grundle. I noticed that your rather young still and was wondering if you had any kids of your own? Just curious. Either way, I would appreciate it if you kept your useless comments out of my thread, this one AND the one regarding the email question I started. Thanks Cliff P.S. I will chek back here often and let you know of any progress.

Hey everyone, as some of you may know, my wife and I have full permanent custody of her brothers two boys, 7 and 9. We are having a problem with the younger one. Every night when he is told to brush his teeth, or pretty much any other time he uses the bathroom, he hides something of his brothers, like toothbrush, toothpaste, or one of his toys behind the toilet or behind the cat litter box. We have tried every kind of punishment I can think of. Spankings, no video games, no toys, no playing outside. I normally let them read books when they are in trouble but I have even taken that away. He does his chores, eats supper and goes to bed. Then he does it again the very next day. Actually, last night he did it, got in trouble, on his way to bed he did it again!!! I have him brushing in the kitchen now but he continues to do it when he goes to the bathroom otherwise. I have also not allowed him to got to grammas, mommas or daddys on their weekend visits. Earlier this week when his brother was visiting his mother, he didn't do it, as soon as brother got home he hide something of his. This is really the only problem with him, he behaves well any other time and gets good grades when school is in. Him and his brother both get equal punishment and reward for their behavior, except his brother learns from his mistakes and does not repeat the act again. They are both shown equal attention, and are both included in extra activities like fishing, assuming they behaved that day or whatever. Any suggestions? This is driving me nuts!! I feel bad and hate seeing him so sad and bored. I want him to have fun and eat snacks and cookies and crap and go fishin, but I know I can't just let him continue this without any punishment. Like I said, he behaves otherwise, it is just this one stupid thing. It wouldn't be a big deal if he didn't do it EVERY night of the week!! I am up for any ideas. Thanks Cliff

The lesson to be learned is to take all your necessary gear with you. Pliers/forceps/hematats should be at the top of your list. Having to return to your vehicle for instruments that can save the life of a fish increases the risk of the fish not making it. Consider the interlopers, thoughtless and rude though they may be, as the price you had to pay for your negligence of leaving your pliers behind. If you thought you were aggravated, think how the fish felt. Puts an entirely different perspective on the incident.

Lifes tough some days but your day doesn't qualify.

One of the toughest things to do for a lot if us is to seek advice when what we've tried in our personal lives hasn't worked, so props to you for even asking us for input. I'd have to respectfully disagree with the "spanking" comments made earlier, as a little "swat" to either of my girls when they were younger was 100% effective and far from physically abusive. Grouping "spanking and hitting" together as being ineffective as Grundle stated sounds like physical/domestic abuse as opposed to an infrequent spanking by a loving parent outside of an angry/heated moment. I was spanked as a kid when I deserved it and feel that is a reason why I've never had a problem respecting authority. Back to your specific situation, I'd definitely agree that it's more of an attention issue with the brother for who knows why. Now that school is coming back around, you may want to mention it to his teacher and see if he/she notices anything through the journaling and other things they're trained to do to get kids to open up. Best of luck and keep us posted.

Come on Stig, I already have those in 12 different colors....at least try to keep up.

I'll admit I've become addicted to catching snakeheads this summer. The last couple weeks I've gone out I've purely been snakeheadin, although you always catch some bass doing it. I never used to like catching them, too much of a bother or they would break you off. I'd just kill them and throw them back. But I heard too much about them being good to eat, so about a month ago I kept one and filleted it. No surprise they are great to eat. Before even targeting them, I was catching a lot more this year than in the past. Caught a few on traps in the spring, chatterbaits, I caught one about 11 lbs on a senko pretty early in the summer and having that thing pull drag like it did helped fuel my desire to catch a bigger one. The past 2 weeks is when I went out for the first time telling myself I was only going to fish for snakeheads. It's addicting. You get one of them 10lbs plus leaping out of the water and pulling drag, it's a rush. Dan you're right, sometimes though they are just dead weight on the end of the line. I saw that about two weeks ago with two I saw up shallow swimming around an area in circles. I guess guarding fry or protecting a bed or something? I picked them both off with a spro, but considering one was about 10.5lbs and the other 6, they didn't fight much at all. Once they got to the boat they thrashed around some, but no big leaps or runs. I just figured that they were worn out from spawning or whatever it was they were doing. I've just been throwing assorted brands/color frogs for them (river 2 sea, spro, snag proof). Black is what I've thrown the most. Generally a slower retrieve with pauses. Shallow up in grass (hydrilla mostly up that shallow) like everyone else has said they are there. It can be slow sometimes just throwin that frog over and over, but if you throw it long enough you are bound to get one. And when you get a big one on, it's worth it. Be rigged up properly though unless you want to lose a bunch of baits. I lost 3 frogs to them by them cutting through my braid before I said enough and went and bought 40lb saltwater mono leader. I had a knot fail on a big 10lbs+ one a couple days ago, but other than that, no more lost baits with that leader. Keep a close eye out if you're fishin for them. As always in fishing polarized glasses are a must. Sometimes you can see them suspended near the surface. Or sometimes you'll see their big dorsal fins fanning out of the water. Not really sure what they are doing when I see that, I've thrown to them, but they dont seem to hit when they are doing that. I'd like to compare some more notes about fishin for them with some of yall who've fished for them. Maybe learn some more about their habits so we can catch more. Here's a couple pictures of some I've caught lately. I've got 3 over 10 pounds in the boat this summer, broke 2 definite over 10 off hard to judge size beyond that, but I haven't broken that 12lb mark. That is kind of the mark I set for myself. Hopefully a couple more trips and I can break that.

Sounds like it may have to do with wanting attention from his brother. Does the one kid get more attention from you or whomever than the other kid. Favortism? One thing I know for sure though, DO NOT punish/restrict them from visitation.

Send River Rat316 a pm. He makes semi-custom spinnerbaits in addition to jigs.

I have tried many (zoom, ragetail, sizmic, yum etc), and nothing works as well for me as Stanley Ribbits.

Actually, a thread is preferable since other members can answer your question as well as any moderator, and others with the same question might also see the thread, or <gasp!> use the search box to find the answer. No thread - no results - no answer. You'd be surprised at the volume of PMs we receive with some of the same questions. Red did 100% the best thing by asking out here.

See the FAQ.

I respect no man who lays his hands on a child. There have been more studies shown that spanking and hitting young children cause more emotional and mental harm than other forms of punishment. Plus he "hides" something from his brothers? Big deal. But, who am I to judge your parenting style, not my kid.

If I wanted to ask a question about my own account do I create a new thread about it or a just PM one of the many mods who could clearly answer my question? Let me know thanks!