You Can't Protect Them Forever

[slonezp]

A bit of a rant.

My little girl is 25 She's been my little girl since I met her mother 19 years ago. I've gone thru all the nightmare thoughts any dad would go thru raising a daughter. None of her boyfriends have ever met my approval so, she stopped bring them around. This last one really takes the cake. She has been with him for a couple three years. After spending a weekend with us at the house in Wisconsin 2 years ago and watching his behavior and mannerisms, I was done with him. 2 weeks ago they move in together. Being the nice guy that I am, I offered the use of my truck. He whined the entire time about having to move her heavy furniture, while his buddies helped out and didn't say a word. She has spent more time at home since she moved out, but hasn't mentioned anything until this past Thursday. Her mother and I have "date" night every Thursday and she asked if she could come with. She cried about what a dick he is and I bit my lip because she didn't see in 3 years what I saw in one weekend. I got a call from her in tears tonight "come pick me up, I'm moving back home." Just finished unloading the truck. Can't say I told you so but.......

 

 

[A-Jay]

You're a good man and she's very lucky to have you in here life. 

She knows you only want the best for her but like all of us, she has to find her own way. 

I had one of these myself - except it took me over 10 years to figure it out and cost me a portion of my retirement. Perhaps she'll learn from this; I know I certainly did.

 

Best part about the whole thing is that you were there when she asked & needed you.

 

A-Jay

[deaknh03]

Just make sure she doesnt go to Alabama or root for the Raiders and you have done your job.

[Chief 2]

At least she found out before any little ones were in the picture! Both of my daughters knew better than to bring home ********.

[Oregon Native]

Good for you.....good for you.   Sounds like you have some of those ol fashioned values. 

• It's awesome you can be there for her.  It also sounds like she knows it too but ......well.....yeah....you know.

[Jolly Green]

I tip my hat to anyone who can raise daughters without winding up indicted for murder.  Good for you for raising one who can come to you and admit that she's made a mistake and needs to make some big changes. Some 25 year olds still choose to equip themselves with the mentality of 15 year olds and would stay with the jerk out of pride and parent-spite.  Congrats to you that when she did realize things were wrong that she did something about it, if not as soon as you would have liked.

[speed craw]

Some times the greatest words are the ones not said . In the years to come her having a pos boyfriend will diminish to having a dad who was there when it mattered most.

[slonezp]

I tip my hat to anyone who can raise daughters without winding up indicted for murder.  Good for you for raising one who can come to you and admit that she's made a mistake and needs to make some big changes. Some 25 year olds still choose to equip themselves with the mentality of 15 year olds and would stay with the jerk out of pride and parent-spite.  Congrats to you that when she did realize things were wrong that she did something about it, if not as soon as you would have liked.

She's matured a lot in the past couple years. I'll give her that. My son and her are a year apart. He didn't put me thru half the ups and downs she has. She went to work this morning and didn't say much.

[Jigfishn10]

Sometimes you gotta find out the hard way and she did. Like others have said, thankfully no kids were involved and thankfully she wasn't married.

 

My stress with my daughter is just starting. She's 13 and likes boys, ugh. I got many more years of watching her make decisions. Good and bad.

 

I tip my cap to you slonezp.

[Raider Nation Fisher]

Go break him. I smashed my little sisters boyfriend for spitting in front of her. I'd probably kill someone for behaving like that.

You do a good job and are a good dad.

[speed craw]

Teach them young I routinely take my little girls out on dates to show them how they need to be treated and shown respect. When they get older hopefully they will recognize a turd when they see one. My family has had sixteen generations of boys . Im the first to have girls to say the least its been a learning experience. God help you sloan zp it took a man to do what you have done . Especially the patience you have shown.

[scrutch]

Sounds like you have done a good job with her. All we (I have three daughters) can do is teach them to make good decisions and learn from their mistakes. And most important of all, set a good example of what a good man looks like.