Super User clayton86 Posted June 2, 2013 Super User Posted June 2, 2013 Ever feel certain people need a high five to the face with oncoming traffic? Lol like ex wives seriously blows my mind at times. Quote
Super User Sam Posted June 2, 2013 Super User Posted June 2, 2013 Everyone's brain matures at their own pace. Guys usually end up mature after 25-years. Women can be mature around the age of 12. Some people cannot compute various data while others not only compute it but jump ahead of others by a few steps. Your ex probably cannot or will not accept what you do or say. She is projecting you as a jerk and until she sees you in a different light, no matter what you do will not please her. All I can say is 1) don't hit her; and 2) laugh it off. Keep a diary of what she says and how she acts. After a few months you will see a pattern. It will get worse after she marries and has money or prestiege. Difficult situation you are in but you can only do what you can only do. Kill her with kindness! 2 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 2, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 2, 2013 Oh I do laugh it off she plays the "still legally married" card when I spend a weekend with my gf I laugh at her and tell her to look down at the baby bump and engagement ring on her finger and the poor sucker she conned. That's why it blows my mind she gives me crap for having a gf I see once a week cuz of work and distance an she is engaged and pregnant but plays the " I'm still your wife" crap seriously makes me LOL haha Quote
Super User Teal Posted June 3, 2013 Super User Posted June 3, 2013 Haha... shake it off. Telll her to call the "still legally married police"...LOL That reminds me of my 3 year old. He has toys that he NEVER touches, but heaven forbid there is another child in my house that attempts to play with it. He will immediatley put down or stop what he is doing, go to the child, rip the toy away and proclaim it as "MINE", then he will playy with it for two mins and throw it down and ignore its existance until another child begins to have fun with it again. I have had girlfriends like that, they leave or break up with me, and then they see me with a better looking woman, and the do one of two things. 1) go into a mini rage and curse out or harass the new gf or 2) blow mmy phone up or show up at my house at 0130 hrs proclaiming thier undying love for me by screaming in the front yard while shining headlights on my bedroom wall. 2) was a true story...ugh Dude, realy dont know what to say other than to stay strong and focus on the new job, new gf, your boys and fishing when you have time. You seem ttoo busy, to be dealing with childish games. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 3, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 3, 2013 Yeah she's crazy and just one them people that just make you face palm after hearing what they say. I ran into a few instances like that this weekend of people just blowing my mind when they say something so incredibly stupid. Quote
preach4bass Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 Everyone's brain matures at their own pace. Guys usually end up mature after 25-years. Women can be mature around the age of 12. Some people cannot compute various data while others not only compute it but jump ahead of others by a few steps. Your ex probably cannot or will not accept what you do or say. She is projecting you as a jerk and until she sees you in a different light, no matter what you do will not please her. All I can say is 1) don't hit her; and 2) laugh it off. Keep a diary of what she says and how she acts. After a few months you will see a pattern. It will get worse after she marries and has money or prestiege. Difficult situation you are in but you can only do what you can only do. Kill her with kindness! This man has dealt with people before! Quote
Super User rockchalk06 Posted June 3, 2013 Super User Posted June 3, 2013 Ever feel certain people need a high five to the face with oncoming traffic? Lol like ex wives seriously blows my mind at times. Ex friends and stupid people yes, all the time. Now my ex wife, na, it's all good every time he kisses her he's...........ill stop now 1 Quote
jhoffman Posted June 3, 2013 Posted June 3, 2013 If you are still legally married to her you better get on getn out of that ASAP. Some states, if you are married, you are legally responsible for any child born during wedlock whether you created the child or not. You wanna pay child support for a child not yours to a cheating ex wife? Quote
quanjig Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 Sometimes it's tough to be the bigger person in your situation. Be the bigger person, like others have said, your boys should be #1 right now so be happy with them, enjoy the new GF when possible and when confronted with having to have anything to do with the hopefully,soon to be divorced ex!, be civil. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 4, 2013 Sometimes it's tough to be the bigger person in your situation. Be the bigger person, like others have said, your boys should be #1 right now so be happy with them, enjoy the new GF when possible and when confronted with having to have anything to do with the hopefully,soon to be divorced ex!, be civil. Oh my boys always come first I see my gf once a week if in lucky we live 1.5hrs from each other and both work full time as single parents. I'm always the civil one two she's just down right crazy and nasty at times I won't get into details but I could easily get her locked up or at least a free at ride in squad car with the crap she texts me but I don't wanna go that route and she does a 180 usually by the en of the day I'm used to it after being married to her. I spent a few hours with her today so our boys would stay with her they kick and scream and don't wanna do anything with her even with me right there with them. Te whole time kept begging to go home then commented mine and my moms cooking is better then hers( yes I live with my mom at the moment) Quote
Super User flyfisher Posted June 4, 2013 Super User Posted June 4, 2013 Why are you spending any time with her? When i made my ex my ex we cut ties completely/ Granted, we didn't have kids but if i made a decision that it was not going to work out in a marriage then there is no way i am going to be friends. 1 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 4, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 4, 2013 Simply put my kids they don't want anything to do with her unless I'm with them and even then it's iffy. I don't hate or hold it against her or the guy she left me for I hook his hand and thanked him even bought him some shots at the bar. I'm just nice idk Quote
Super User flyfisher Posted June 4, 2013 Super User Posted June 4, 2013 Seems weird to me but everyone is different on that type of stuff. Quote
quanjig Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You have the right attitude, I'm rooting for you! Quote
jhoffman Posted June 4, 2013 Posted June 4, 2013 You seemed to glaze over what I said so Ill ask you again... ARE YOU DIVORCED YET? Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 5, 2013 You seemed to glaze over what I said so Ill ask you again... ARE YOU DIVORCED YET? Sorry.....legally no and I don't have to pay support for the unborn kid she is already being taken to court for it by the baby's daddy. Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted June 5, 2013 Super User Posted June 5, 2013 Simply put my kids they don't want anything to do with her unless I'm with them and even then it's iffy. I don't hate or hold it against her or the guy she left me for I hook his hand and thanked him even bought him some shots at the bar. I'm just nice idk Your a better man then me. She wouldn't ever see our son again if that happened. As for the other man. He wouldn't ever walk again, when I finished with him. There's a million women in the world, mine is off limits. Just as I am to other women. But, I'm just a hateful like that. I'm proud of ya for making the best out of it. Keep on keeping on. Quote
jhoffman Posted June 5, 2013 Posted June 5, 2013 Never say never brother, just when you think it cant happen... it can. Let me tell you a story, thats rather long and Ill sum it up quick. Dated a girl casually after highschool, she got pregnant and said I was the dad. I rolled with it for five years. Her own friends started raising questions about whether I was the father based on her actions. She decided to take me to court for child support after I did my OWN out of pocket private DNA test to find out I was not the father, she took me anyhow... I then had to pay for a state sanctioned DNA test which again proved I was not her father. Even though the two tests confirmed it, I had to hire an attorney, go before a judge with my ex and tell the story of lies. At the end of the hearing the judge said "Mr Hoffman, I am not sure whether I can let you go free and clear of this child in the best interest of the child". I didnt have a problem playing dad to her, I had a problem writing an $800/mo check to a cheating lying *****. The judge sat on the case and three months later I got a letter in the mail that I was relieved of all parental duty. In my digging to build a case to get this cleared up(this case set precedence in PA) I came across what I warned you of. If shes as vindictive and manipulative as you say she is, you better cover all bases cause legally, shes got you by the john. Quote
Super User Root beer Posted June 5, 2013 Super User Posted June 5, 2013 So the point of all of this is to avoid dating/marrying women? Quote
Super User Raider Nation Fisher Posted June 5, 2013 Super User Posted June 5, 2013 So the point of all of this is to avoid dating/marrying women?Nope. Its obviously be careful who you pork. They may be an evil, conniving, she pig. That humps anything that moves, and you may get stuck with the bill for their lack of leg closing abilities. That's my take on the commentary. As for the OP. I believe he is saying he wants to smack the crazy out of her for being an over reacting idiot, and blight on the name of crazy people everywhere. Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 5, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 5, 2013 Nope. Its obviously be careful who you pork. They may be an evil, conniving, she pig. That humps anything that moves, and you may get stuck with the bill for their lack of leg closing abilities. That's my take on the commentary. As for the OP. I believe he is saying he wants to smack the crazy out of her for being an over reacting idiot, and blight on the name of crazy people everywhere. Yeah it was ment as a general to all stupid people out there people at work to my ex just people ya see on the street. Quote
derekxec Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 sounds like her man did you a half favor....should tell him to do the full favor and be too jealous to let her talk to her ex lol Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 6, 2013 sounds like her man did you a half favor....should tell him to do the full favor and be too jealous to let her talk to her ex lol Yeah well the two guys she's had living with her since its all happened both left her. She keeps buggin me about being alone and lonely non stop. Then she cries how no guys want her and we all leave her or I won't come back to her. I told her if every guy leaves her or won't get involved and we all say its cuz your crazy maybe you really are crazy lol she never likes that comment Quote
derekxec Posted June 6, 2013 Posted June 6, 2013 lol the next one you need to help build her up ahahah and say no give backs lol 1 Quote
Super User clayton86 Posted June 6, 2013 Author Super User Posted June 6, 2013 lol the next one you need to help build her up ahahah and say no give backs lol She called me today all happy and excited she sold her parrot and that she went on a dating web site(I told her too lol) and her first match up was a guy she dated threw highschool and was engaged to briefly. Next words out of her words out of her mouth were he's got his own house and is a journeyman electrician and makes 70k a year and can take care of her. I smiled and crossed my fingers they have a date tonight......hoping it works out so she is out of my hair lol Quote
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