Keeping Your Sanity

[clayton86]

Holy crap I'm gonna go insane with another 2-3 weeks before returning to work.

Usually when I have a rough day or iv been couped up inside to long I go fishing to regain my sanity as I'm sure most of us do. It seems like lately though I'm pulling my hair out like every day needing to escape.

My boys seem to be the main source of me going nuts lol. Don't get me wrong I love my boys very much but this being a single dad thing is got my head spinning I'm up to my eyeballs in poopy diapers lol. I take em out to the playground every chance I get, take them fishing also constantly playing being jumped on like a human jungle gym. Doest help that their mother my ex wife does nothing to help support them or take them on weekends or durring the week ever. Then there is the new GF that's a head ache all in its own also lol.

How do y'all do it keep your sanity lol I'm sure it's fishing.

Sorry it's a bit of a vent/rant also I'm just going nuts just got done punishing my youngest son for slapping me cuz he wanted a drink rather then asking he screamed at the top of his lungs "baaaabaaa!!" then slapped me.

[deaknh03]

I constantly remind myself that these moments are something I will never get back.

[dave]

Ditto on the never getting these days back. (and believe me,  one day you'll look back as these being the greatest in your life)  As far as the ne GF,  my experience is only with others and their issues.  Concentrate on the kids,  not yourself or a girlfriend.

[mrmacwvu1]

I drink a lot

[clayton86]

Yes don't get me wrong I cherrish every moment with my kids and they get all my attention but if your saying your kids never want you to pull your hair out in calling bull **** big time.

[slonezp]

The Guard can't break you but a couple of kids and a broad...well... I don't have any constructive advice for you except it takes time and getting used to. Once you get over your ex it will clear up your head a lot and things will be easier to deal with. Take these words to heart, they explain a lot:: "All women are crazy and all men are stupid" If you can keep your stupid and her crazy in check, you will be much better off.

[MCS]

It sounds very similar to what my wifes says. She is a stay at home and being couped up with the kids breaks her, she says around 4 or 5 she reaches her daily limit. I understand on the weekend I get a slight taste of what she goes through. And I complete understand you when you say you love them, cherish them, but they are the source of the metal breakdowns.LOL I think part of it has to do with age, my oldest is 7 and he will go play lego pirates on the wii for a couple hours or read or draw and give breaks. It is the little ones that seem to have a motor that won't quit and a curiosity to match. I dunno, she seems to relax by reading or crossword puzzles, just getting out of the house even for errands. I drink a few, fish or walk/work my dog, praying. But I can understand what you mean man, good luck hope you find your metal peace. Maybe take up knitting, may yourself a nice pair of mittens for next ice fishing season.

[SPEEDBEAD.]

Ditch the girlfriend for now.

 

Real talk.

[CoBass]

Ditch the girlfriend for now.

 

Real talk.

Agreed. I raised my son by myself starting when he was 11 mos old so I have a little bit of experience with this. From what I remember about your recent posts, you are just a few months out of a pretty complicated situation with your now ex wife. Take some time off and concentrate on your boys. It might not seem like a big deal to you, but to a couple of little kids whose family life just got turned upside down, the last thing they need is to feel like they are competing for your attention with the new girlfriend. Give things time to settle down. There's plenty of time for girlfriends in the future but you only get one shot at your kids childhood. 

[Raider Nation Fisher]

I feel your pain. I go absolutely nuts when I'm cooped up all day. I go to the gym, fish, run suicides, run agility drills, or play soccer or rugby with my son. As far as the kids go. Enjoy it while you can. It won't last forever. Plus I'm envious as hell of you right now. I would kill to see my son for just ten minutes each day. Let alone all day every day. Be grateful your getting to spend time with them. Even if they are driving you insane. As for the girlfriend tell her to straighten up or sniff off.

PS. I know you are grateful to be spending time with your boys. Especially after having been deployed. I'm just missing my boy right now.

[jhoffman]

I have one and hes a handfull, I couldnt imagine more than one which is why I wont have more than one if I have anything to do about it. Kids are more like two full time jobs than a single full time job could ever be.

[clayton86]

My boys are 20months old and 4 years old its go go go all the time lol. The gf thing ain't that bad I see her once a week she likes 1.5 hours away so I make a trip usually on Friday night come home Saturday evening. My ex is no issue at all other then the no child support thing I'm def over that train wreck of a women she's already engaged and movin to PR in 2 months lol.

[nick76]

My advice,

 

1)  enjoy the boys.....you will never get that back!

2)  keep the girlfriend thing low key and make sure you are able to give your sons the attention they need

3)  make time yourself (and the GF if you desire).......that couple of minutes or hours a week helps

4)  be glad that your ex seems to be disappearing from the picture.  You may get the opportunity of a lifetime by her not being around to either mess it up or ruin the relationship between you and your sons.  If that means you need to financially tighten the belt then so be it, I would love to have my wife's ex gone from our lives.  He doesn't support them, but sure makes himself a huge pain.

[Bankbeater]

When my little one gets going we go to the park to play tag.  I'm it and I act like I am chasing her.  I'm not trying to catch her, just keep her moving so she'll wear out.

[clayton86]

When my little one gets going we go to the park to play tag. I'm it and I act like I am chasing her. I'm not trying to catch her, just keep her moving so she'll wear out.

Were you watching me today or something lol I spent 3hrs doing just that. Guess who got worn out.......not my son lol. He's cutting his molars we think also he's been screaming and screaming like some ones trying to kill him or something. Grab my hand and holds it to his face its the only thing that some what soothes him, then his tea thing meds kick in and he needs a drool bucket lol.